Hi Magnus,
To be very blunt, I said your EXPERIENCE is invaluable. In your initial email you didn't recount that experience in a way that clearly pointed out what wasn't working. That means your initial email wasn't invaluable, because there was nothing in it that I could act on.
yes, you are right. In an ideal world, I would have written my original message differently. I was frustrated, because I had spent quite a lot of time working on this project, and it felt like the quality of the results that I was able to achieve didn't compare favorably to the amount of effort that was necessary to achieve them. So I was disappointed, and that emotion clearly showed in my message. Obviously, my message would have been more helpful if it had been written from a purely objective point of view. However, since I *am* emotionally involved in this project, it is hard for me to be 100% objective. Still, the fact that I'm not 100% objective does not imply that my perception would be entirely wrong or inaccurate. In your response, you ignored the contents of my message, because you felt that it didn't contain any specific information that you could act on. You didn't say that, though. Instead, you said the opposite: you said that my feedback would be invaluable (even though you clearly didn't believe that it was, or you would have responded to it). To me, that looked as if you would dismiss my point of view. Personally, I believe that everyone on this list has nothing but the best intentions, but we are imperfect human beings who are prone to miscommunications. Apparently, we've had a miscommunication. Now that we have cleared that up, I think the way to go is to forget about it, and to move forward. Is that all right with you? Take care, Peter